12 October 2014

How to lose weight sustainably

Hi everyone, 
After years of practising cognitive behavioural interventions, I came to the conclusion that if a person wants to lose weight the worst they can do is start making attempts to cut down on food. This is so counter-productive.  It creates a totally unpleasant concept of lack, scarcity, deprivation.... very unmotivating and disempowering and undesirable way to feel about life.  No wonder so many diets fail.  I have developed a new concept of losing weight to be launched officially in January next year.  So I will not give the name away yet, but will just mention a few things about it.  It is well known, researched and documented that all eating is emotional.  We use food to give us a feeling of happiness really.  So when we 'diet' and 'trying to lose weight' - I hate both of these expressions, the feeling has to be of joy and pleasure and happiness and motivation from seeing the results.  

This feeling is achieved in this way:  you add foods to your diet you don't try to remove foods from your diet.  It's based on a natural law of filling, which I discovered when working with psychological disorders as cognitive behavioural practitioner for six years.  You can't be happy and unhappy at the same time.  It is as if there is a limited space in the mind that can be filled either with good feeling or with bad feeling.  So instead of trying to stop being unhappy, just practise being happy.  That will push out the unhappiness as it fills the space with happiness.  

The same goes with eating.  Fill your day with good foods.  That's all you need to do.  Then as an inevitable consequence all the bad foods will be pushed out of your diet without you having made any effort to stop them.  It is the effort that is very wrong in dieting because it makes the whole exercise laborious and unpleasant.  Eat as much as you like good foods.  Vegetables.  Steamed. Raw. Juicing.  After a day of juicing is very difficult for the body to accept cakes.  It is more than difficult.  It is impossible.  And if you find that your body is accepting cakes, that only is a signal that more vegetables need to be consumed by the body.  That is all that needs to be done.  No effort to remove foods, no feelings of scarcity and lack.  

Ok, I can think of the first question in my direction.  But what if the vegetables are not enough? Answer: yes that is felt strongly in the beginning but then the body gradually becomes used to less food. Answer 2: eat lots of protein which gives a nice feeling of enough.  Answer 3: eat good carb which gives a nice feeling of enough - brown rice, brown pasta.  Carb in the evening, protein in the day.  Answer 4: add cumin and sesame oil to the vegetables - that gives them a nice comforting feel and they satiate better this way.  Answer 5: Don't stop eating fats, lack of fat gives the strongest feeling of deprivation.  Also fat is very much needed by the body and the myelin shield of the nerve cells.  It can get thin from lack of fat in the body and that puts the nerve cells at a very big risk, it slows the firing of the synapses and all brain processing becomes impaired.  Answer 6: Cinnamon tea with lemon juice - drink at the end of the meal and see how it makes you feel satiated.  It's gives the meal a very comfortable end.  Answer 7: remember losing weight is not only about the food it requires a change of lifestyle - more physical stuff, less sedentary stuff.  I was planning to go to the shop to buy food today when I decided to play the latest set of Armin Van Buuren.  I ended up dancing for 2 hours and completely stopped needing food. After which I was very hungry but that was well deserved after jumping around for two hours.  Answer 8: Hunger is a state of mind and a state of feeling.  All eating is emotional. Following that well-known research fact - it will be very detrimental to start removing foods as that will increase the negative emotions.  It is not about willpower.  It is about feeling good, being kind and gentle on yourself. That is when the results start coming. And if you still need a cake - despite eating lots of vegetables then treat yourself and have complete unconditional trust in yourself that this is just a treat and not a threat to your weight loss.  Ensuring the mind that the body is not deprived and can have whatever it wants is the most effective technique for giving up stuff, whether that is bad foods or cigarettes or alcohol.  In 2003 I gave myself permission to drink as much as I like and since then I have had about 5 glasses of wine on very rare occasions.  This is a picture of me eating cake in July this year - I have given myself permission eat cake as much as I like.  The result - I eat cake twice a year max, sometimes once a year. When I get the craving I allow myself to eat it straight away without any mental debating and getting into will battles. In that way the body is happy that it can get whatever it wants any time it wants and this is how the cravings come very very rarely to the point that it is not worth fighting them.  It is October now and I still have not had any cravings to eat cake since then.  This is the most effective and sustainable method for losing weight - trusting yourself and being kind on yourself.  The magical mantra is: I give myself permission to eat as much as I like whatever I like, whenever I like.  I give myself permission to feel all the spectrum of emotions.  Why do we add the emotions: because all eating is emotional and it is linked with emotional management.  More on this subject in another post.  
Feel free to ask me more question, I'm happy to help. 

Love and Blessings,
Bilka skincare.
At my favourite Pavilion Tea House, Greenwich
Lemon cake and I
The best lemon cake in the world with the best cream in the world in the best place in the world
Louise, Bilka Skincare

28 June 2014

Beware the Trojan Horse Type of Man

Someone who makes way to your heart in a peaceful, gentle, compassionate manner, full of grace and softness. You soften, you melt.  He knocks gently. You open the gate of your heart and he enters.  Some time later, a few weeks, you feel different about yourself. You are no longer the confident, buoyant self you used to be.  You feel doubtful of yourself.  You question your value, you question your importance in his life.  Nothing major has happened, there haven't been any big rows, or disagreements.  But more and more visible scratches appear on the surface - some weeds of instability are sprouting through the cracks.  Yes, you feel unstable, not on solid ground at all in this relationship.  One day is good, another day not great, but it was ok, another day is ok again, nothing going wrong.  Then you go to have a bath and you start crying.  You cry and you can't stop.  And you know: you are not loved.  You are not loved.  And then you start thinking - how, when, where these cracks began.  And you go backwards.  Was in the text when he said that he won't be seeing you after your gym session?  You shared with him what a fantastic time you have in the gym and how great you feel about yourself and his face became strangely sour.  Instead of him supporting you and being happy for you that you are doing something positive in your life, he feels inferior to your strength.  Your physical strength, your personality strength.  He feels like shit about himself.  And instead of trying to do something positive for himself he actually tries to bring you down, to make you feel bad, to make you feel like shit - like the way he feels.  He employs invisible strategies to achieve that.  He doesn't tell you anything bad.  He tells you good things.  But strangely he cancels dates at the last minute, or does not call when he has said he would call.  He forgets about dates.  He sends you unaffectionate texts, emails.  He calls briefly claiming that he is in a rush because of work or something else serious.

 Slowly but persistently he erases your feel good factor, day after day, message after message.  It's difficult for you to pin him down.  After all he couldn't talk long because he has work to do.  What kind of girlfriend you are if you are not understanding towards his responsibilities.  He refuses to meet you after your training session when you feel on top of the world - well that may be just a coincidence.  Where is the evidence that something foul is underlying that.  

But your feelings understand and know.  Your heart knows that you got yourself in a unloving relationship or a complex relationship with a messed up destructive person.  Like a criminal in an art gallery he scratches the paintings gently but persistently.  He does not tear the paintings with a knife, he scratches them, erases bits of them, he is a vandal of a sly kind.  He does not want to be caught in anything.  He wants to be left alone to erase and undermine erase and undermine.  He cannot do something drastic.  That will reveal him as weak - showing anger, and sharing openly that he feels insecure in your positive, shining presence. He is too messed up for a direct approach of dealing with his insecurities and inadequacy.  He knows you are too beautiful, too positive for him.  He knows he is struggling to deal with that.  But he does not let you go.  He stays to erase, to undermine, to destabilise, to make you doubt, to make you question, to make you feel unsafe, scared, yes he wants to make you fearful, he wants to see you drink, take drugs, fall down.  He wants to see you fall down, on your knees.  He calls your pride a big ego.  He calls your achievements attempts for self-promotion.  He gives a negative spin to positive things you do in your life.  

Ladies - beware, there are many trojan horses around.  It is not only my experience that made me write this, but prompted by many women sharing the same thoughts.  A colleague got a good job - her husband instead of congratulating her started calling her greedy, and when she will ever stop wanting more and more money.  My daughter's boyfriend told her that she was very boring with her regular going to the gym and asked her: when are you going to stop being so boring?  She replied: 'do you want me to take cocaine so that I'm exciting enough for you?'. At least on that occasion he lost his cool and expressed himself directly which finally made her understand how wrong he was for her.  But previously he worked subversively and slyly to communicate the same things to her.

There are many many many examples of men working underhandedly and subversively to undermine a woman's confidence in herself and pride from her achievements, to make her question her value and worth and what she means to him.  

Beware of those totally wrong men.  They are rotten.  They are beyond correction.  With no one around them to erase, the turn onto themselves.  They erase themselves.  They tend to have alcohol addictions, pornography addictions, drug addictions.  They can't cope with the internal feeling of insecurity and inadequacy within themselves.  But instead of addressing that and doing something intelligent about it, or seeking healing, or benefiting from the healing and positive example you bring in their life, they turn against you, they hate you for being so strong and so positive, because that highlights even more how shit they are.  

My love, gratitude and blessings to all the good, positive and helpful men in my life.  

Om Shanti    

Golden Light Meditation

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Golden Light meditation: sit down comfortably, imagine gold light starts pouring onto you, your hair, it is a liquid gold light. So it pours onto you and it wets your hair, face, neck, shoulders, arms, breasts, back, belly. More and more golden light pours onto you. It wets your entire back, your breasts, belly, your waist, your hips, your legs, your knees, calves, feet, gold light pours onto you more and more and it wets your whole body. It starts washing you, it washes your hair, it washes your face, it washes you neck, it washes your shoulders, it washes your back, it washes your breasts, it washes your belly, the gold light washes your hips, washes your legs, your knees your heels your feet. Liquid gold light washes you and you observe how the gold liquid turns collects all the impurities from your hair, from your body and it turns greyer from the collection of these impurities. Observe how grey it turns, is it just a little bit a tint of grey in the gold or is a darker shade. And you let the gold light wash you until there is no more grey in it and it is pure gold light. After you are washed on the outside then let the gold light enter your body inside. 

More and more golden light pours onto you but now it also enters your body from the top of your head. You observe it how it enters the skull and it starts washing the brain, then it goes to the eye balls, washes the eye balls, then it goes to the throat, washes the throat and then it enters the inside of your body and washes all the organs there in your body. So you continue imagining how it washes every individual organ and you focus on those which you wish. Then after your body inside has been washed there is no more grey in the gold liquid, you go back to the brain and you observe what is happening there and whether there is grey left in the liquid gold that is washing your brain. Imagine that liquid falling away from you, going into a river and the river dissolving the dirty liquid, and taking it away and away from you. So keep doing this until the gold light washing your brain becomes pure gold and there is no more dirt. While washing the brain you observe what the gold light is washing away: a certain memory, a certain prejudice, a certain judgement, a certain lack of faith, you observe them and you know exactly what is being washed away from your brain. To this day after so many meditations of gold light I still see grey in the gold and that shows how useful it is to keep doing it and keep doing it. Om shanti   

The recesses of our minds attract those who try to harm us

What is worse? Someone being openly rude or someone working to your detriment underhandedly? I much prefer if someone does not like me to keep away from me. But some destructive agents get involved in negative subversive ways, working quietly to undermine you and to create doubts and insecurities within you. Too bad, cos I can spot these from a mile. I stop them in their tracks and I highlight what they had just done. Then I see their reaction. Could be a genuine mistake. Most often - a surprise for being caught so quickly. Have not had these for a long long time, and was just drawing the conclusion that we create our own reality and when we have a clear vision of where we are going, and who we are, then we attract only those who are aligned with our vision and our true authentic selves. But today I met one of those and that tells me - eliminate the weeds whatever left in my mind, if there weren't any I would not be attracting weeds. Still it was a good going, have not met anyone of that kind since December 2013 - an ex working subversively and subliminally to send me in a space of doubting my value and self-worth. A trojan horse - making his way to my heart with songs of beautiful future and opening the gates of my heart gently and without a force, then working slowly, but persistently to erase my confidence and pride. Why? Because I'm disciplined, I work out regularly, I'm fit, and it was getting to him that my training is sacred and a priority. He was so jealous to see me doing well, being liked by everyone. And yesterday my daughter shared that her boyfriend told her that she was boring because she goes to the gym regularly. She told him ok, so to be exciting - should I do cocaine or get drunk?  I strongly advised her to dump him there and then cos this is so horrible when a man dislikes the positivity in a woman and does not feel comfortable to see her doing well. Ladies there are so many of that kind - beware! If a man is not supporting your positive endeavours and gets insecure within himself when you do well - dump him straight away. He has a rotten heart. He got removed from the premises of my heart without a blink. But today a business contact behaved in that way and telling me how much she cared that I succeed but she could not help me, fully knowing that she can help me. It was much better for her soul to have said - sorry but I don't like you and I don't want to help you. That is honest. Clearing meditation tonight. Golden light washing the mind, washing the body. Got to clear out the remaining weeds. And thank you God for all the good and beautiful people I have met since last December. Hare Krishna Jai Jesus Shanti shanti   

22 June 2014

Bilka on Holiday - Sailing at 3 knots, Sant Carles, Spain

Louise Gylsen, Bilka Skincare

Louise Gylsen, Bilka skincare

How is everyone?

I'm on a holiday now, enjoying sailing and visiting unfamiliar ports on the Mediterranean coast of Spain.  

Weather and wind are unpredictable and changeable, and I am learning how to sails at different knots of wind.  This video shows laid-back gliding along at 3 knots which was lucky for us that we weren't in a rush.  But if we wanted to get somewhere - this weak wind would have been a problem.  How to sail at such weak wind?  Well we have a surfing sail which we put later on but I didn't manage to take a picture as the sun got very hot and burned my shoulders. But this is what it looks like - in the pic below.

3 June 2014

Abundance Entry Meditation

This is a very special meditation which I was taught by Christie Marie Sheldon and I have seen how doing it sends me straight in abundance. Expanding oneself. Imagine you are getting as big as your room. Then you are getting as big as your house. Then you are getting as big as your street. Then you are getting as big as your neighbourhood. You are expanding and getting bigger, as big as your town, as big as your country, as big as your continent. As big as the planet Earth. Bigger than out planet. You are getting bigger, viewing our planet, viewing other planets around you. You are as big as the universe. You are expanded. You are expanded. Look around. All the planets, all the stars, all the constellations, are part of you. You encompass all of them. You are expanded. You are expanded. You are expanded. You are expanded. Stay in that place, breathe, enjoy. Stay expanded for as long as you can. You are expanded. You are light. You are everything. Everything is part of you. You are big, you are enormous. You are expanded. You are expanded. Breathe, breathe. Feel the release of pressure from the head. Feel the calming of tension in the eyes. Feel the comfort in the belly. Feel the relaxation in the lungs and heart. Feel the ease in the throat. You are expanded. You are expanded. You are expanded.

1 June 2014

Say 'Thank You' to Your Ex :)

Law of Abundance in Love: Be grateful to your ex. Many would say 'whaat, he did this he did that, it was all wrong... how can I be grateful to him?' Ok, this is how. They illuminated what you don't want to have in your life. They clarified your vision about what you want by highlighting what you don't want. The one and only reason why relationships fall apart is lack of clarity in all us about what we want in a relationship, what we want from the other person. And this is exactly the role of all of our partners, and this is exactly our role in their lives too: to make it clearer to us what we don't want and to make it clearer to them what they don't want, and in that way to make it clearer what we want and what they want. It is a tough road, and it doesn't have to be that way, but the problem is so many of us have lost the connection with our true essence, our higher self who knows exactly what she/he wants. And because of that broken connection with our true essence we make wrong decisions as to who we get involved with. We think we want something, then we get it - it turns out it's not what we want, but we could not have known that in advance, we could only discover that through our interaction with the other person, by getting what we think we want. The saying 'Be careful what you wish for' exists for that reason. It is not nice getting what we wish for and realising it is not that at all but it is somethng else. So forget about how bad your ex treated you, how wrong they were etc etc, I am sure there is a lot of truth in that, but obtain another perspective: from the very beginning of the relationship - they were what you were looking for and what you wanted on that stage of your life. You got what you wanted. So then it turned out that was not what you wanted, and you discovered completely unknown to you previously things that were actually very important to you to have in a relationship. So then it is not their fault that you have made these realisations and that you in practise have moved the goals posts and have decided that you want different things to what they can give you. It is not their fault. And they served the tough role to make these realisations possible to you. This is why we have to look beyond the micro-dynamics of the relationship - I'm sure on a micro level they did a lot of wrong things. But on a macro level you changed your mind about what you want and they were not able to play ball with you and that is not their fault neither it is your fault. They have helped you to grow and understand yourself better, to figure out your priorities better, to get closer to your inner true essence. They have shown the signs from the very beginning of the relationship about what they can give you and what they can't give you, but you have chosen to get involved because you have chosen to neglect certain aspects of yourself and the needs that go with these aspects. So it turns out later that the needs you have decided to neglect only to be involved with them, are much more important that you thought and appreciated. You thought those needs can be laying dormant for weeks, months years and you thought those needs could be controlled so that you could enjoy your relationship. But then you discovered that they were much more important than you thought, and they were screaming for attention. Ok, so whose fault is it that happened? Let's be honest with ourselves. It is not anyone's job to look after our needs. That's our own job. Our ex brought us closer to acknowledging, valuing, understanding our needs. They did a good job. It is not their fault that we discarded our needs and got involved with them despite knowing that they can't meet our needs. We knew what we were getting ourselves in and we chose to disregard our values and needs. That is our own crime against ourselves or simply unawareness of what we really wanted due to the disconnection from our true essence. Understanding that is important to obtain clarity about our previous relationships, and to see them not as failures but as necessary events that have brought us closer to ourselves and have helped us develop a better relationship with ourselves. Say 'Thank You' to your ex. Make peace with your ex. In your mind will be sufficient. Then go and get what will make you happy and what will meet your long neglected needs. 

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31 May 2014

Money and Love - Open to Abundance and Allow

How is everyone on this Friday night? I just had a philosophical debate with a friend about money. He said that money is not needed to achieve happiness and I went on a rampage. Whaaat??? So basically what he is saying that one can live in poverty, struggle in paying the bills and be happy??? Have you ever been in that situation when you are struggling financially? I have.  How is that not an obstacle to happiness? There is so much social research out there that lack of money creates stress and leads to physical illness as well. But who needs research when we know from our own experience how unpleasant and nothing less than unpleasant it is when there are problems with finances. Many years ago I had no money to decorate my flat, came home feeling depressed looking at the cracked walls and ceilings, feeling helpless because my salary was not big enough to afford decorating. Then life got better and I decorated my flat like a sanctuary, thanks to... money coming in. And now my flat is a place of rest, peace and relaxation. My home is now a a place which heals me every minute, a respite from any problems in the world outside, where I feel gladness and comfort no matter what challenges I have had from outside. There is a very big difference between how my home makes me feel now to how it used to make me feel when I had no money. Same goes for emotional turmoils - much easier to cry on a yacht, than to cry in poverty. Some of those who don't know how to make money devise whole philosophies about how unnecessary money is and try to manipulate the world to believe that, instead of getting their imagination in gear and starting creating and manifesting. Love, creativity, money is the same thing. Money is a good energy. Money and love is the same energy. When I started loving myself more - more money came into my life. Most people who don't have money are people who have issues with self - love. Please pay attention: Self-Love. Real self-love. Not the narcissistic self-adoration. But warm, kind, accepting, nurturing love towards oneself. Most people don't feel it. And that is why most people have problems with money. Money is not a dirty word but the means to achieve many beautiful things, including the sailing lifestyle which I want to live, which is a very natural, sincere non-materialistic aspiration. I don't want 5 star hotels, I don't want expensive clothes, shoes, bags, expensive hair-cuts and nails, expensive spa treatments. I want to sail all year round, jumping in the sea, swimming with the dolphins, being physically active every day, running naked on desert islands, living in harmony with nature, seeing the sun every day, feeling the rain on my skin, feeling the wind in my hair, eating only fresh and natural food and having enough time for relating and spiritual development. I don't have a gram of materialistic aspirations about my future, but paradoxically to achieve the non-materialistic lifestyle I want - it is the money that can make it happen. 

Hey this conversation tonight inspired me to start an abundance series of posts. I'm so much into abundance - love, money, health, joy. They are all the same energy. And I'm so happy that after a bad start in life, when I felt unloved due to incompetence of my parents (only when they were young, after that they've been great), I worked through issues of insecurity and self-criticism and self-judgement, and I reached a place when I became kinder to myself. Most people cringe at the thought of self-love. This is another dirty word. 'How dare you loving and liking yourself. That is immodest.' So after overcoming the hurdles placed by social norms and rules, I got to the self-love point. And money started coming much much more. To open the gates of abundance - self-love is the key: no longer judge yourself, no longer criticise yourself, accept yourself (that is a difficult one but can be done with some practise), accept the real you, not the one others think you are because you have had a mask on your face, not the one others want you and expect you to be, but the REAL YOU with all of your features good and bad. Getting tired easily - accept it. Not achieving very much - accept it. Not being motivated - accept it. Liking too much alcohol - accept it (In my work with addictions I can safely say that the cause for all addictions is the lack of acceptance of the addiction and the constant struggle with it.) Big bum - accept it. Small breasts - accept it. No hair - accept it. Too much hair - accept it. Too tall - accept it. Too short - accept it. STOP THE JUDGEMENT. SILENCE THE INNER CRITIC TOWARDS YOURSELF. BECOME KIND TOWARDS YOURSELF. AND THEN THE MIRACLES WILL HAPPEN. How will the miracles happen? We will open the gates of abundance. Why? Because judgement, criticism and lack of love towards ourselves - make us contracted, tightened, fastened. That state is unreachable by abundance. We need to expand, stretch, open. That is the state in direct contact with abundance. It is no longer a matter of abundance coming to you. It is YOU in the middle of all the abundance - abundance of Love, Joy, Money, Peace, Health. 

Wanting is another dirty word. "Oh, wanting is so bad, you must get only what you need, that is the only thing good for you, wanting will spoil you and will teach you the wrong things'. Who is the manager of my life? I am the manager of my life. I want therefore I am. I don't care what some quasi-spirituals tell me. I go and get things that I want. Why? Because I trust that there is an internal wisdom that governs my wants. These wants don't come from me being spoilt, I trust. I trust that I'm wise and every intuitive urge, calling, impulse I get comes from a deeper place of knowing, which I may or may not understand consciously. I trust in my eternal spirit and soul the ones that were never born and will never die. They know everything of all times, because they are timeless. Every time I have acted on a want and on an impulse I have achieved a good result. Never so far my wants and impulses have failed me. But what has failed me was the lack of trust in them when I was younger, what has failed me was inhibiting myself and controlling myself, and analysing and questioning myself, and demanding from myself to be perfect. Those things have failed me until I spotted them as the culprits for the lack in my life. The last time I acted on a want was last Friday, felt very drawn to a perfume shop, and I had to go in. I walked in and asked the shop assistant to give a heavy, heady, sweet, intoxicating perfume. She gave me Nero Absolute by Roberto Cavalli. I smelt it fell under its spell instantly. Exactly what I needed. To be embalmed in the sweetest fragrance that is also deep and mysterious, not playful and intriguing but much deeper than that - hypnotic, solid, holding you in its splendour and keeping you there. This is the most grounding, abundance inducing perfume I have come across since Versace's Crystal Noir. If you need a nice big dollop of help with the self - acceptance and self - love - use Nero Absolute. It soothes you gently into self-acceptance, it holds you tight into self-love, it is food, nothing less but food for the female soul. So another want another impulse paid off. My life is so much sensually and materially richer with Nero around. How did that happen? I felt splendid, I acted from a place of abundance not from a place of lack, I was open, expanded, accepting, allowing (not contracted, tight, assessing) and several opportunities presented themselves. I Said 'Yes'. Say 'Yes' to everything. This is another theory I came across recently but have not had a chance to explore it yet. The guy is an american milionnaire who says that if you keep saying 'yes' to all opportunities that present themselves to you, you will then stop the internal resistance that is intrinsic to most humans, and you will get into allowance and once you open the gates of allowance - the abundance floods in. Catch you later for some more abundance stuff, and let's get practical, and do some self-acceptance and self-love. Blessings and Love Shanti Shanti    

24 May 2014

A day in bed

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What a glorious day today spent in bed, restoring and rejuvenating. I'm in the new paradigm of abundance, listening to my body, leaving my body to make all the decisions for me and allowing. When my body says 'rest' I do rest. When my body says 'go' I do go. My body is now promoted to the Chief Executive of my Life because it understands the present moment better than my mind. The present moment is the timeless eternity where abundance resides. Stay present in your body and feel. From that connection Love and Joy are born, the vehicles that take us to abundance. And demote the mind, rushing scared, making plans, setting goals, because it knows only Time. I listen to my body saying 'no, take a step back, don't think about anything, don't worry about anything, just rest and allow. Every goal is resistance, every plan is resistance, stop doing, start being, let go and surrender to the divine plans made for you and allow them to unfold. Shanti shanti