How is everyone on this Friday night? I just had a philosophical debate with a friend about money. He said that money is not needed to achieve happiness and I went on a rampage. Whaaat??? So basically what he is saying that one can live in poverty, struggle in paying the bills and be happy??? Have you ever been in that situation when you are struggling financially? I have. How is that not an obstacle to happiness? There is so much social research out there that lack of money creates stress and leads to physical illness as well. But who needs research when we know from our own experience how unpleasant and nothing less than unpleasant it is when there are problems with finances. Many years ago I had no money to decorate my flat, came home feeling depressed looking at the cracked walls and ceilings, feeling helpless because my salary was not big enough to afford decorating. Then life got better and I decorated my flat like a sanctuary, thanks to... money coming in. And now my flat is a place of rest, peace and relaxation. My home is now a a place which heals me every minute, a respite from any problems in the world outside, where I feel gladness and comfort no matter what challenges I have had from outside. There is a very big difference between how my home makes me feel now to how it used to make me feel when I had no money. Same goes for emotional turmoils - much easier to cry on a yacht, than to cry in poverty. Some of those who don't know how to make money devise whole philosophies about how unnecessary money is and try to manipulate the world to believe that, instead of getting their imagination in gear and starting creating and manifesting. Love, creativity, money is the same thing. Money is a good energy. Money and love is the same energy. When I started loving myself more - more money came into my life. Most people who don't have money are people who have issues with self - love. Please pay attention: Self-Love. Real self-love. Not the narcissistic self-adoration. But warm, kind, accepting, nurturing love towards oneself. Most people don't feel it. And that is why most people have problems with money. Money is not a dirty word but the means to achieve many beautiful things, including the sailing lifestyle which I want to live, which is a very natural, sincere non-materialistic aspiration. I don't want 5 star hotels, I don't want expensive clothes, shoes, bags, expensive hair-cuts and nails, expensive spa treatments. I want to sail all year round, jumping in the sea, swimming with the dolphins, being physically active every day, running naked on desert islands, living in harmony with nature, seeing the sun every day, feeling the rain on my skin, feeling the wind in my hair, eating only fresh and natural food and having enough time for relating and spiritual development. I don't have a gram of materialistic aspirations about my future, but paradoxically to achieve the non-materialistic lifestyle I want - it is the money that can make it happen.
Hey this conversation tonight inspired me to start an abundance series of posts. I'm so much into abundance - love, money, health, joy. They are all the same energy. And I'm so happy that after a bad start in life, when I felt unloved due to incompetence of my parents (only when they were young, after that they've been great), I worked through issues of insecurity and self-criticism and self-judgement, and I reached a place when I became kinder to myself. Most people cringe at the thought of self-love. This is another dirty word. 'How dare you loving and liking yourself. That is immodest.' So after overcoming the hurdles placed by social norms and rules, I got to the self-love point. And money started coming much much more. To open the gates of abundance - self-love is the key: no longer judge yourself, no longer criticise yourself, accept yourself (that is a difficult one but can be done with some practise), accept the real you, not the one others think you are because you have had a mask on your face, not the one others want you and expect you to be, but the REAL YOU with all of your features good and bad. Getting tired easily - accept it. Not achieving very much - accept it. Not being motivated - accept it. Liking too much alcohol - accept it (In my work with addictions I can safely say that the cause for all addictions is the lack of acceptance of the addiction and the constant struggle with it.) Big bum - accept it. Small breasts - accept it. No hair - accept it. Too much hair - accept it. Too tall - accept it. Too short - accept it. STOP THE JUDGEMENT. SILENCE THE INNER CRITIC TOWARDS YOURSELF. BECOME KIND TOWARDS YOURSELF. AND THEN THE MIRACLES WILL HAPPEN. How will the miracles happen? We will open the gates of abundance. Why? Because judgement, criticism and lack of love towards ourselves - make us contracted, tightened, fastened. That state is unreachable by abundance. We need to expand, stretch, open. That is the state in direct contact with abundance. It is no longer a matter of abundance coming to you. It is YOU in the middle of all the abundance - abundance of Love, Joy, Money, Peace, Health.
Wanting is another dirty word. "Oh, wanting is so bad, you must get only what you need, that is the only thing good for you, wanting will spoil you and will teach you the wrong things'. Who is the manager of my life? I am the manager of my life. I want therefore I am. I don't care what some quasi-spirituals tell me. I go and get things that I want. Why? Because I trust that there is an internal wisdom that governs my wants. These wants don't come from me being spoilt, I trust. I trust that I'm wise and every intuitive urge, calling, impulse I get comes from a deeper place of knowing, which I may or may not understand consciously. I trust in my eternal spirit and soul the ones that were never born and will never die. They know everything of all times, because they are timeless. Every time I have acted on a want and on an impulse I have achieved a good result. Never so far my wants and impulses have failed me. But what has failed me was the lack of trust in them when I was younger, what has failed me was inhibiting myself and controlling myself, and analysing and questioning myself, and demanding from myself to be perfect. Those things have failed me until I spotted them as the culprits for the lack in my life. The last time I acted on a want was last Friday, felt very drawn to a perfume shop, and I had to go in. I walked in and asked the shop assistant to give a heavy, heady, sweet, intoxicating perfume. She gave me Nero Absolute by Roberto Cavalli. I smelt it fell under its spell instantly. Exactly what I needed. To be embalmed in the sweetest fragrance that is also deep and mysterious, not playful and intriguing but much deeper than that - hypnotic, solid, holding you in its splendour and keeping you there. This is the most grounding, abundance inducing perfume I have come across since Versace's Crystal Noir. If you need a nice big dollop of help with the self - acceptance and self - love - use Nero Absolute. It soothes you gently into self-acceptance, it holds you tight into self-love, it is food, nothing less but food for the female soul. So another want another impulse paid off. My life is so much sensually and materially richer with Nero around. How did that happen? I felt splendid, I acted from a place of abundance not from a place of lack, I was open, expanded, accepting, allowing (not contracted, tight, assessing) and several opportunities presented themselves. I Said 'Yes'. Say 'Yes' to everything. This is another theory I came across recently but have not had a chance to explore it yet. The guy is an american milionnaire who says that if you keep saying 'yes' to all opportunities that present themselves to you, you will then stop the internal resistance that is intrinsic to most humans, and you will get into allowance and once you open the gates of allowance - the abundance floods in. Catch you later for some more abundance stuff, and let's get practical, and do some self-acceptance and self-love. Blessings and Love Shanti Shanti